Dating for the unemployed

Growing up, my parents were able to provide a stable middle-class upbringing for me, my three sisters and my brother.

I can understand now how fortunate we were not to worry about hunger, housing, or medical bills.

According to science, getting a date could be just as hard as your job search.

As if losing your job doesn't suck enough, a recent survey conducted by online dating site It's Just Lunch found that 75 percent of women wouldn't even go on a date with an unemployed man. But 33 percent said there was no chance, while the other 25 percent said they would go on a date with a jobless guy."Not having a job will definitely make it harder for men to date someone they don't already know," says Irene La Cota of It's Just Lunch.

We were going so fast; I was afraid my legs weren’t long or quick enough, that I’d fall, and I remember looking up at him, as he laughed and pulled my hand and said faster and we were flying and my feet, I swear, were barely touching the ground. Last summer I was helping my father in the garden, and I wanted to say, “Hand me the hose,” but couldn’t remember the word for “hose,” so I stood there stammering, until finally I gave up and pointed toward “the snake that spits water.” He immediately understood, as we share the same affliction.

He’s asked me numerous times for a “writing stick” when he wanted a pencil and sometimes asks for “brown champagne” when the Coca-Cola is on the other end of a lunch table.

I’m absent-minded and more than once have tried to fit a metro card in the front door, swiped my lip gloss at the subway turnstile, and brought keys to my lips when looking in the bathroom mirror, which is, I guess, how they ended up in the medicine cabinet. He repeats this joke fairly often, every time as if it were the first time, and I laugh every time, too, though sometimes I can’t remember why it’s funny.

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Smyle's stories and essays have appeared in the Atlantic, the New York Times, BOMB, the New York Observer, Best American Travel Writing 2015, and other publications.

"This is the rare area, compared to other topics we've done surveys on, where women's old-fashioned beliefs about sex roles seem to apply."I know this sounds a bit superficial — like we need a man to have a job so they can shower us with gifts and take us on dates.

But I think whether he can hold down a job tells us more about a man than his net worth.

It is a sign that he's responsible, ambitious and has goals in life.

In today's economy, it's not unusual for people to be out of work or between jobs, but even a man working a non-ideal part-time job while looking for and applying for work in his field is sexier than one who is content with living off mommy and daddy's hard-earned cash.

Though notably conducted by a matchmaking service for singles looking to meet 'normal, well-educated professionals', the report broke down the numbers to find out whether the votes were finance-based or more complex.

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